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Loslaten van je ex – Hoe doe je dat, als het maar niet lukt? (44.431)
Contact blijven houden met je ex, waar je nog sterke gevoelens voor hebt, is misschien wel het meest onverstandige wat je kunt doen als je over hem of haar heen wilt komen. Ik heb me daar talloze keren aan 'bezondigd', waardoor ik heel lang, soms zelfs jaren, bleef hopen op een verzoening. Ik kon eigenlijk pas loslaten op het moment…
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Is het bindingsangst of bindingstwijfel..? – De liefde rationeel benaderen (17.614)
Mensen die bindingsangst ervaren, herkennen zichzelf vaak niet in de term 'bindingsangst'. "Hoezo bindingsangst? Ik vind hem/haar denk ik gewoon niet leuk genoeg om 100% voor te kunnen gaan." Bindingsangst zou eerder bindingstwijfel moeten heten. Ze denken waar ze zouden moeten voelen. Liefde beredeneer je niet, dat voel je. Mensen met bindingstwijfel rationaliseren de liefde. Ze zitten vast in hun…
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Eeuwig in een niet-relatie blijven hangen (13.744)
"Ik vind het heel fijn met je, maar ik wil geen relatie." Hoe vaak ik dat niet heb gehoord? Elke week zagen we elkaar, soms meerdere keren per week. Altijd was het heel fijn. We praatten, we zoenden, we knuffelden, we vrijden, we lachten, we deden leuke dingen. Het was pure romantiek, de ideale beginfase. Niks aan de hand zou je…
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Bindingsangst of gewoon geen echte liefde? (9.714)
Zelf heb ik voornamelijk last van verlatingsangst in mijn relaties, omdat ik me aangetrokken voel tot mannen die mij in de relatie op afstand houden. Die verlatingsangst is dus vrij reëel; de kans is groot dat ze elk moment weg kunnen zijn. Verlatingsangst is mij echter zo bekend, dat het 'normaal' en zelfs goed voor me voelt. Het is voor…
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Durf weg te lopen – een teken van emotionele volwassenheid (8.194)
Stel je voor.. Je hebt het al een paar maanden heel leuk met iemand. Je bent dol op hem, je voelt zelfs dat je van hem houdt en hoopt dat het een relatie wordt. Maar je durft er zelf niet over te beginnen. Je durft niet als eerste 'ik hou van jou' te zeggen of aan te geven dat je…
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Ben ik (nu) überhaupt wel in staat een relatie te hebben? – Vermijdende hechting (7.429)
Ik spreek de laatste tijd veel mensen die zich in mijn blog zeggen te herkennen. Daar zitten ook veel mannen bij, die zich in de vermijdende hechting herkennen en in de bindingstwijfel. Ze zeggen inzichten te krijgen door wat ik schrijf, maar tegelijkertijd vragen ze zich af wat er dan nodig is om voor de volle 100% te kunnen kiezen voor…
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De 4 kenmerken van ware liefde.. een mooie stip aan de horizon (6.762)
Tijdens mijn Vipassana (stilteretraite) vertelde de monnik mij over de vier kenmerken van ware liefde. Ik vond dat erg verhelderend. Hier komen ze: Je bent er beiden op gericht elkaar blij te maken. Je achterhaalt actief welke wensen en verlangens iemand heeft en probeert daar zoveel mogelijk van te vervullen. Je bent er beiden op gericht elkaars lijden te verzachten.…
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‘Te lief’ zijn.. – waarom een symbiotische relatie niet werkt (6.448)
Na ruim tien jaar ploeteren in relaties die me veel emotionele ellende hadden opgeleverd, zat ik eindelijk in een fijne veilige relatie. Met iemand die 'veilig gehecht' was, dacht ik. Wat een verademing! Onze turbulente beginfase - hij ging voor onbepaalde tijd op reis, twijfelde of wij wel bij elkaar pasten en wilde na zijn reis van Maastricht naar Amsterdam…
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Wanneer heb je een seks- en/of liefdeverslaving? (5.951)
"Hoi, ik ben Stefanie, en ik ben liefdeverslaafd". Ik kreeg het amper m'n mond uit en had de neiging om met mijn vingers aanhalingstekens in de lucht te vormen als ik het woordje liefdeverslaafd uitsprak. Ik vond de diagnose te extreem. Mijn therapeut en de groepsgenoten van groepstherapie vonden dat ik in ontkenning was. Ik was net onder behandeling bij…
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Soort zoekt soort – Waarom je aantrekt wat je zelf bent (onveilig gehecht) en hoe je dit doorbreekt (5.766)
Stel je hebt moeite met verbinding. Je hebt de neiging om in relaties iemand niet al te dichtbij te laten komen. Je hebt veel tijd en ruimte voor jezelf nodig en je wilt voelen dat je vrij bent om te doen en laten wat je wilt. Je voelt je al snel benauwd en overvraagd door de wensen van de ander.…
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